Tag: transformation

Enchantments and Enchanted Spaces

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When I moved into my home in 2010, I had always felt like I had been called to it – or it had called to me. The house I had been living in prior to divorce sold within 24 hours of listing it, with a month to close. This may be one of the most powerful enchantments I have ever done, without actually knowing what I was doing. I wove a spell of letting go and welcome around that house daily for months before the house was listed.

I was wandering through my now neighbourhood the day my old house was being viewed and saw an open house sign. I accepted that invitation and knew immediately upon entering that this was my house. Although my agent took me to see other houses, I didn’t need to see any others. The previous owner was willing to move sooner than he had anticipated – within three weeks – because it was a sale with no conditions.

Lots of Transformation over the Years

Fourteen years later, I still feel the same. There has been a lot of transformation in the house and on the property. It started with converting most of a large storage room into my office as soon as I moved in. That idea came about as I stood, looking out that basement window, saying to myself, in a perfect world, this room would be my office. So mote it be.

Property Transformation

Property transformation began one summer when Jerry was visiting. He took the gardening tools to the trees in what had become an overgrown backyard wilderness of sorts. I learned a lot about being ruthless in taking down tree limbs, line of sight, pausing to see how things looked, before going too far. Trimming the undergrowth from a front hedge became a summer project another year. Other yard work was sparked because my son and daughter-in-law love digging in the dirt and cutting up wood. Projects started while they visited became my mission.

Painting Odyssey

Then there was the painting odyssey of 2020 – thank you Covid. Every room in the house was rearranged, purging did transpire, and fresh colour adorned every wall and piece of trim in the house by early fall.

2022 saw new decks – one that Jerry and I built on our own, nestled a bit higher up than the main deck and into the trees, making it feel like a completely different space and energy – almost like it was in the woods rather than attached to the main deck. A contractor replaced that one.

This spring (2024) saw the takedown of a huge, three-trunk elm tree from my front yard after a large branch came crashing down in big winds, Easter weekend. It was leaning over my house and beginning the slow rot from the inside, so it needed to come down. It has since been transformed into firewood. And, I’m working on removing the oil tank and furnace, to be replaced by heat pumps, this fall.

Enchanted Playhouse and Space

I have often thought about building a playhouse for my grandchildren in a portion of my backyard. That idea was put on hold for a variety of reasons. One recent weekend, as I looked out a stairwell window, I saw that neighbours across the street had put out a child’s hard plastic playhouse for anyone to pick up.

Magically, a playhouse is now in my backyard. It is not the wooden structure I thought I would build – maybe that will come later – but the magical sense of this little house in my backyard, at the end of a path (that once led to something else) truly lends itself to a feeling of enchantment. My grandchildren love it. Looking out from the deck or the living room window, the whole space now looks like an enchanted opening in the wyrd wood where fairies, wood elves and nymphs, and the spirits of the land will now come to gather and spread their magic in the same way I was drawn to my home the very first time I saw it.

Monochromatic Days

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My father once commented on the passage of time. He said, “Minutes are like seconds, hours are like minutes, days are like hours, weeks are like days, months are like weeks.”

Seven months into this pandemic, I think about my father every day. I feel like I have greater insight into what his days were like as he lived them out alone in his house. Day after day, unremarkably the same.

Monochromatic days. There are colours and yet there are so many more that are missing.

Wake up. Feed the cats. Make coffee. Scroll through social media for longer than is wise, especially given the chaotic nature of these times. Have breakfast. Go for a walk. Shower. Fill in the day. Finish up the day. Have a glass of wine. Read. Feed the cats. Plan a trip to the grocery store. Make dinner. Have another glass of wine. Watch an episode or two of a favourite show. Give the cats treats. Go to bed. Rinse and repeat. Plug and play.

I am grateful for all of the things that are part of my plug and play. A day a week with my grandson. The great 2020 Painting Odyssey with multiple days of painting the rooms in my house. Work that includes zoom calls, writing, strategizing, monitoring the discussion boards of the online programs we are piloting. Visiting my granddaughter. Visits with my kids some days or a friend or two on other days.

The Bedford Basin on a day in July when my walk pulled me to the shoreline. Monochromatic and the fullness of the colour of that day.

And yet most days I wake up with sadness, sometimes grief. There is a sameness about the days. They lack adventure. They lack work with clients – how I miss that work right now. They lack planning for the next trip whether for work or pleasure. They lack the in-person connection with my sweetie who I haven’t been with since March.

There is a listlessness. Even as I bring new colour into every room of my house and marvel at the transformation, the endless march of days miss the full spectrum of colour. They are monochromatic. How is it already October? Time has been sucked into a vortex of repetitiveness, even with the plug and play.

I miss my life. I want it back. But, for the moment, I will go apply a second coat of paint to my bathroom – room/area #12, finally feeling like I have turned the corner of this painting odyssey with only 3 rooms left after this. When the painting is done, one less plug and play for my days. Pining for the days of full colour spectrums.

Inhabiting Identity

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Who are you? Who are you really? Who do you aspire to be? How are you creating your life? How much thought have you given to these questions? For me, they are a guiding inquiry providing ample fodder for deep reflection.

I have been actively engaged in identity work for the last couple of years, becoming more of an active conscious participant in my own future, in creating my own destiny. I am doing this by becoming a magician (yes, you read that right) and living into being a powerful creator. Not a show magician full of dazzling tricks or someone who engages magical thinking, but a person who recognizes the power of combining deep spiritual work with practical mundane steps to advance a vision, intent or desire for my life. Learning how to do magic, be magic, live life magically.

A fitting image for the month of July 2020

I have found amazing teachers and tuned into a whole new world that has been waiting for me for decades. A world that has attempted to reveal itself through my spiritual journey but which often left me wondering what to do with what was revealed, with the spirit guides, guardians and supporters I knew to be available to me. Now I am learning how to build relationship, how to open the lines of communication more fully. And, I feel like my father through his death has opened a portal of greater access. Through this work, I am learning much more about identity, about my identity.

I recognize over the decades I have inhabited several identities – some more fully than others and none with the degree of consciousness I am bringing to this next evolution of who I am, who I am growing into.

Like everyone, I have a number of roles that shape who I am and contribute to my identity. Mother, grandmother, daughter, granddaughter, sister, lover, partner, friend, neighbour, consultant, trainer, teacher, coach, author, co-author, traveler, cat parent, caregiver. And these many roles are not the consummate of my identity.

My identity is more than my roles. Although all of my parents and grandparents are now departed, I am still a daughter and a granddaughter but these roles are different now. Since my father’s death, I am no longer a caregiver for my elder(s), which was a consuming role. I am no longer part of the sandwich generation – sandwiched between parents and children. I am now the elder in my family.

Since putting a period on 70 Dufferin Street, clearing out my parent’s house where my dad had lived for 45 years, a house my brother and I also grew up in, I have turned my attention to my own house of 10 years. There are a few items from my parents’ house that have made their way into my house and they needed to be made way for. They have sparked a transformative effort in my living space. And, it’s more than that.

Two of my transformed spaces: my family room and my meditation/magic room.

My evolving identity is demanding a space to inhabit that is refreshed through paint, cleared of clutter, bringing a sense of order to each individual space and the house overall. I am in the midst of this now, in the summer of 2020, the year of Covid-19, the year in which I hope we see the tipping point of racial injustice and a rewriting of social contracts, a year in which the global economy is struggling and Jerry and I are reimagining our business and strengthening the foundation of it to ride the possibilities and opportunities post Coronavirus.

In the painting of each room in my house, a transformation takes place. When I painted my bedroom, I took everything out of my closets and cupboards and only about a third of things went back. Clothes that had been in the closet for a decade, brought here from another life, another identity, were shed. A wedding dress and shoes. Clothes given to me by other people that I did not wear but had a hard time letting go of. Gowns I would never wear again. Clothes I bought because I liked them but every time I put them on I took them off again because I didn’t like how they looked. Shoes I had barely worn. All gone. And as I caught sight of a few sweaters that had been much loved and enjoyed a few years ago, I recognized that the clothes we wear are all part of the identity we inhabit at any given time and it is hard to fully inhabit a new and evolving identity when the ghosts of past identities clutter our spaces.

I am on a mission. As I turn my attention to the next space(s) in my house, things are removed, new order is brought in. By summer’s end, all of my living spaces will have been refreshed and transformed. My sense of my identity will continue to deepen and I will walk in the world with more confidence and hopefully more grace than in all of the decades before.

For those curious about who I have been learning from, my main teacher is Fabeku Fatumise. Through him I have discovered Dan Carroll and chaos magic, Jason Miller and Aidan Wachter among others. Buy any of their books and prepare to immerse yourself in a new journey. For me, it is a healing journey full of new awareness. It is a journey that has kept me sane through difficult times and it offers me practical things to do and focus on in times when it feels like there is little that can be done. And, as I said at the beginning, it has given me practices that enable me to be an active conscious participant in my own life.