When the Family / Town Secret is You!

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My brother and I are perplexed. How is it possible to be in your 40s and only then find out about a family secret that literally everyone knows – all our extended family, all friends of our family, my best friends growing up and an ex-boyfriend I have not talked to for 40 years? It seems, the only 2 people who did not know were me and my brother.

The secret? We did not know that I was adopted until my full sister and a half-sister reached out in 2008, when I was in my mid-forties. They sent me a Facebook message to say, “You don’t know us and we don’t mean to upset you, but we have reason to believe you might be our sister.” First thought? Who are you and what do you want with me?

My birthday – probably January 1, 1981 – my brother, mother, me, and dad.

Immediately, I sent this message on to my brother. He has a sharp memory and can recall things I have no idea about. If this was true, surely he would know. He didn’t. He was just as shocked as me. (Also, for those who are wondering, he is the biological son of our parents, born a couple of years after I was in the picture.)

Our first thoughts were that this was an iron clad secret almost nobody knew – otherwise, how was it possible to keep such a secret for over 40 years? Also, it was in the 1960s and social media did not exist. Looking back now, I can see the reasoning was faulty – our parents adopted a child – of course they would have told everyone. So, that explains family and family friends knowing.

Soon after I learned this news, I met up with one of my best friends from high school. I mentioned a sister – thinking I would surprise her. Instead, she surprised me, “Oh, you know.” She had heard through a grapevine. When she asked her mother what she should do, her mother told her it was not her story to tell. True enough.

Then, I discovered some of our cousins knew – which meant all of our cousins knew. My brother and I are among the youngest.

A couple of years ago, a high school classmate died and a few of us gathered to remember him. It was a poignant time. We talked about people we grew up with – including who was adopted or otherwise had different family arrangements. My name was not mentioned in this conversation, nor was I or my situation referenced, nor did anyone ask me anything – even though we all openly knew the background of the people we talked about.

Lunenburg High School Graduation – June 1980.
How many people in this photo knew I was adopted and never said a word?

Later, one of the people there – also a good friend from high school – messaged me about my memoir: Embracing the Stranger in Me: A Journey to Openheartedness in which I write about the unfolding of my adoption story and meeting my birth family. In that exchange, she shared that she knew I was adopted while we were in high school together! Her mother had told her, but now her mother could not recollect how she knew.

I shared this information with my brother. Again, we were equally stunned that people we went to school with knew this about me and our family and it never, ever came up – not in casual conversation, not when talking about other people who were adopted and not in a moment of spite where someone might want to offend you.

This is top of mind at the moment because, recently through a strange kind of delightful serendipity, I reconnected with my high-school sweetheart, my first boyfriend – also, interestingly through FB. As we did the high-level overview of 40 years of life, I mentioned about being adopted. And, he said, he knew! He found out a couple of years after we broke up. The clincher in all of this. My father told his father. They worked together but were not really friends. How on earth did that conversation even come up? And, if my dad could tell my ex-boyfriend’s dad, why couldn’t he tell me? We’ll never know because they are both gone now. Just when you think you can’t be surprised anymore, something else comes to light.

So, it begs the question. How does a whole family and a town not expose a secret, even by accident? How does pretty much everyone we know from that time know about the adoption and it remained a secret to us? Our parents must have had moments of fear, wondering when I – or my brother – was going to come home with questions. Yet, year after year, through university, graduations, career changes, marriage, divorce, remarriage and 3 children of my own, the topic was never brought up.

When it finally did, my mother’s dementia was far enough advanced, it didn’t make sense to try to talk to her about it. Dad and I did have a good conversation – and several after that – and he was supportive of me meeting my birth family, also initially a little worried that this knowledge would affect our relationship. I told him we had 40+ years of relationship – we would be okay. And we were.

It’s a strange world we live in. I do believe secrets want to be revealed. I’m okay with how this story evolved – although it would have been nice to have known my sister earlier. I am curious what would have happened had I heard through one of my classmates – but it’s almost like everyone was sworn to secrecy.

You never know the life path. You never know what is coming up to be cleared anytime but particularly in what had been a very challenging year – 2025 – adding to a 9 in numerology which is a year of endings and clearings – leading into a 1 year – 2026 – for new beginnings, possibilities and opportunities. I have also just left a 9 year behind personally and entered a 1 year personally.

Dear 2026, please be kind, generous and abundant – for us all. I’m ready for it – even as I may never understand how my brother and I were at the heart of a family and town secret that everyone knew except us!

Identity – Reconnecting to Who We at our Core

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I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about identity lately – sparked, in part, to recently having a First Person Account published by CBC titled “I had a loving family. My life changed at 46 when my birth sister revealed I was adopted. My parents hid my adoption. But somehow, the truth brought us closer.”

I’ve been doing a series of videos over at the Inner Wisdom Lab Youtube channel where I speak to various aspects of identity and offer a few guided visualizations for anyone looking to connect more deeply to their own core essence. And there are more to come.

I have now known about being adopted for 17 years, which seems a bit incredulous. Finding out sparked an identity expansion in some ways. In a moment, everything changed, yet nothing changed – with respect to my life, my immediate family and my sense of identity.

Identity and Core Essence

In thinking about identity, I am curious about what is underneath personality traits, skills, abilities, life events … and, I have arrived at core essence. The most basic and important attribute of self that provides a sense of who we are, the inner foundation of being. This essence is constant. In this 7 minute video, I speak about core essence or identity and, in this 10 minute one, I offer a guided visualization for anyone wishing to connect with their own sense of identity or core essence.

Identity and Roles

Sometimes we know and sense our core essence with absolute clarity. Other times it is obscured by layers and layers of roles, expectations – our own and others, doubt, hubris, the minutia of life, disappointments and external successes collected over the course of a life journey. We learn to not trust ourselves, our own inner knowing or wisdom or what our highest self whispers to us along the way. I speak about identity and roles in this 12 minute video and offer a 20 minute guided visualization for any wishing to review the timeline of their life, the roles they took on or were thrust upon them, the gifts in the roles and the opportunity to choose to more fully inhabit some roles and shed others that no longer serve.

DNA and Chosen Family Lineages

Perhaps not surprisingly, over the last 17 years I have also thought about lineage – a lot. DNA and chosen family lineage. DNA does not necessarily a family make. As someone who has been adopted, I feel both of these lineages strongly. I imagine there might be others who feel this way – rooted in at least 2 lineages, if not more.

I have felt most closely connected to my chosen family lineage. One could argue that they chose me since I was a baby at the time. But, if you believe in soul choices and choices made before incarnating, then we chose each other. This is the lineage I grew up with and claimed as my own, since I knew no other until I found out I was adopted. It is very much a part of my sense of self. For a long time, my biological lineage felt abstract.

In more recent times, having connected with a biological cousin who shared the gift of all the genealogical research she has done on my birth mother’s side of the family, something shifted. My sister and I knew that our birth mother’s mother (our grandmother) had had multiple children with different fathers. Our understanding was she had given all the babies up.

I had no idea how many blanks were actually there until that knowledge was shared with me. My birth grandmother had eight children with five different fathers and had not, in fact, given them all up – only the first two, one of which was my birth mother, the second child, raised by an aunt and uncle. Now I have my birth grandmother’s name, and the names of her parents, children, and their fathers, as well as information about the relationships. Having knowledge of my genealogy brings a sense of balance and wholeness I did not expect even as I do not feel a need to connect with all the names that are now etched in my birth lineage.

Identity and Place or Geography

Place and geography influence and shape our sense of identity – where we grew up, where we live, other places that have had a significant influence on our own sense of self. Interestingly, this can expand beyond our own experience to include places that family members are from. I very much have a sense of French Quebec heritage through my dad and of Newfoundland heritage through my mother’s mother (yes I mean the family I grew up in for any who wonder).

My partner, Jerry, is strongly influenced by growing up in the US mid-west. He refers to himself as a flatlander who does not like edges. I, on the other hand, grew up on the coast in a fishing town. People in my family were said to have had the “sea in their blood”. I muse on the influence of place and geography in this 9 minute video and invite people who listen to reflect on what parts of their identity have been shaped by where they grew up or where they live.

Is Finding Your Birth Family a Good Idea?

I am sometimes asked, is searching for your birth family a good idea? One the one hand, it is hard for me to say since this decision was not in my hands. But it reminds me of the famous quote from Shakespeare’s Hamlet – “to be or not to be” – although I am not entirely sure way. Searching for birth family is very much an individual choice. Not everyone wants to search, not everyone wants to be found, not everyone connects in relationship and not every story has a happy ending.

Having said that, if you are someone who knows you have biological family out there and are wondering whether it is a good idea, be aware of the expectations and hopes that you carry, and know that for some, it does not or will not answer the questions they are carrying. This can be hugely disappointing.

On the other hand, actually meeting people may not even be necessary to receive answers – like having my birth family tree suddenly fleshed out. And, for many, there are solid relationships that emerge and evolve over time. For my full sister and I, it is almost as if the 40 year gap did not exist.

My sister and me as children.
Me and my sister in Mexico - a year after we reconnected.

On the whole though, there is an invitation to embrace your identity – all of it. And in so doing, remembering what was here before the physical body and after it is gone. It is all essence.

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Do Not Lose Heart – We Each Have Sovereignty!

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Talk about a firehose of information, disinformation, subterfuge and attack in a compressed period of time! How many of us have had a hard time just functioning? Anyone want to crawl back into bed and put the covers over your head?

I have had those moments – and sometimes that is all that we might be capable of doing. I often find myself responding by taking a deep, deep breath and finding something physical to do – organizing the house, cleaning, walking, yoga – anything that gets me out of the mind and into the body.

As I have felt the physical, emotional and intellectual impact of all that is going on and the challenge in absorbing or digesting it all (haven’t we all?), I have also wondered what I could offer through this blog to provide some inspiration or hope to those of you who honour me with reading it, to remind us all to not lose heart.

I had nothin’.

That is… until seeing the waves of Canadian pride in the moment our sovereignty has been threatened. Those-that-be in the US, saw fit to “poke the bear”, thinking Canadians would slumber through the threat or quietly acquiesce to the bullying, unnecessary and made-up demands.

But no. Canadians, on the whole, are a somewhat humble lot. That humility may have been misinterpreted as subservience or not caring. I have heard it said, we may be slow to anger, but once you get us riled up, watch out! (I do have to note, for those who know me, this is also a personal description.) We might have some infighting in the Canadian family, but attack us from the outside, and we close ranks.

It is not just the majority of Canadian political leaders who are providing a clear and coherent response. Canadians everywhere are sharing our deep sorrow at the loss of a friend, our anger at and disappointment in the US’s threats and actions (and yes, to my US friends, we know more than half of your country is as distraught as we are – thank you for that) and we are standing our ground, loudly declaring our sovereignty. Across the country, people are asking what goods are produced in Canada and what the alternatives are to American products on our store shelves. For the moment, there is a greater sense of kindness with each other on online platforms.

Sovereignty, friends! Every single one of us has personal sovereignty, no matter where we live or what country we live in – over our thoughts, our choices, our actions. Even if it does not feel like much, a decision to buy Canadian where and how we can is an act of rebellion. Who we spend our time with. Who we reach out to. Acts of sovereignty.

Living our lives as fully as is possible amidst the chaos is a radical act. Creating and co-creating – art, poetry, prose, meals are all acts of rebellion – and also of love. Let’s keep at it in whatever ways we can, wherever and whenever we can. Do not lose heart. Stand in your sovereignty and I will stand in mine. Let’s see and acknowledge each other – quietly or loudly. Do not lose heart.

Ordinarily I don’t post political content on this blog site. However, both our Prime Minister Justin Trudeau and our former deputy Prime Minister Chrystia Freeland have responded to tariff threats and they each, in their own way, capture what most ordinary Canadians are thinking and feeling and why we have stepped up our pride and sovereignty. If you are Canadian, you will resonate with the sentiments. If you are not Canadian, you will get some insight into what we are made of and why, when challenged, we rise to the promise in our National Anthem.

O Canada!
Our home and native land!
True patriot love in all of us command.
With glowing hearts, we see thee rise,
The True North strong and free!
From far and wide,
O Canada, we stand on guard for thee.
God keep our land glorious and free!
O Canada, we stand on guard for thee.

Tremulous Times Call for Radical Acts – of Kindness, Compassion, Empathy and Love

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STOP. Right now! Breathe….

Now, breathe more deeply – with each breath, notice the sensation of the breath filling your lungs and the life-giving oxygen moving throughout your body.

Now that you have paused and I have your attention, how are you feeling? Yes, really.  How are you feeling, right now? You are allowed to notice what is true for you, to embrace the fullness of who you are.

Tremulous Times

We are living in tremulous times. I do not have to share the litany of reasons why this is true. All of us who are paying even a little bit of attention – we all know them. Many of us knew it would be bad but the head-spinning velocity at which it is all coming at us can feel and be destabilizing. There are many who say that this is the goal – to overwhelm so much so that we lose hope, the ability to act, that we sink deeper into despair and feel completely disempowered.

For those of us who are empaths, we feel it all, including all that is happening to people, the earth, climate and the environment, in places near to and far from us. It can be debilitating. I know some are deeply challenged and it is all they can do to make it through a day.

For others of us, we have more choice. We can feed this energy and the energies that are indicative of a complete disregard for the sacredness of humanity and all living, sentient beings – or we can make a different choice, even on the days when it feels like our entire body is sludge, being dragged through clay or quicksand.

Radical Acts

Tremulous times call for radical acts – of kindness, compassion, empathy and love – to and for ourselves and to and for others, even as we secure our boundaries around what we are willing to let in and what we are not willing to have thrust upon us.

Kindness, compassion, empathy and love could be to and for the people directly around us or in our circles and it could be for anyone, anywhere on the globe who is need of it, in need of being seen, heard and acknowledged.

Amplify What is Good, Right and Healing in and for the World

It also means giving ourselves permission to experience joy and delight. To nurture our bodies, minds and souls for health and wellbeing and to be resourced against the assault on our sensibilities. It is not to turn a blind eye to what is happening in the world but it is to see and understand what is and is not within our control and to continue to action what is, no matter how small or insignificant it may feel. We often underestimate the power of small acts and actions and we do not know the full scope of who and what is in league with us in these choices. We may not be aware of how we can contribute to amplifying others actions and intentions that will help us all find our way out of the chaos of this present time.

Let’s do it for ourselves, for our loved ones and for those who are currently incapacitated in being able to do it for themselves. Let these be the radical acts that take root in a world that asks us to rise to the challenge of these times in whatever ways we are capable of. Kindness. Compassion. Empathy. Love.

Rumi – There is a Field…. I Will Meet You There

As Rumi has said, there is a field…. I will meet you there – in whatever ways I can: physically, emotionally, energetically, spiritually – and we will amplify the light and healing that is already also at work in the world.

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
There is a field. I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass,
The world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase each other
Doesn’t make any sense.

Creating, Co-creating, Focusing on Inspiration

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In my desire to stay healthy and well – mentally and physically – in times that feel chaotic and uncertain, I am in deep co-creation with others and I am following people who I feel inspired by. This post offers a few of the resources and sources I find helpful. Maybe you can add a few.

My partner Jerry and I have been writing extensively on how to create and sustain a Healthy Workplace Culture as we build a year-long program for a partner. Through this, we have developed a wealth of information, strategies and processes that we are now building into new virtual and in-person offerings with practical guidance that will make a difference to those who take part in them. The program is exciting and energizing and we are looking forward to launching it in January 2025, beginning with free online presentations to describe the program and what people will gain in the 4-part online series we are planning to offer in March 2025.

We are also offering an Art of Hosting Conversations that Matter 2 day Intensive in Bloomington, MN on February 27 and 28, 2025. It is a nourishing program in a supported space where people learn and experience patterns and practices to improve facilitation and hosting skills and is particularly attuned to the times we are living and working in.

I have deepened my spiritual practice as a way to stay grounded and present. In this vein, Dana Pearlman and I are co-creating a series of spiritual and magical offerings under the umbrella of the Inner Wisdom Lab. We are currently creating a self-guided program called Invoking Magic, Healing and Spiritual Power Through Ritual Practices with the Elements. It is full of goodness and offers practical guidance on how to stay focused and elevated above the fray of these times. I can’t wait for us to make it live in the world.

The Inner Wisdom Lab that Dana Pearlman and I are building is a refuge for those of us wanting to deepen our spiritual practice of connecting with our higher selves, inner wisdom and knowledge. You can join the FB group or check out the YouTube Channel where we have an Inner Wisdom Playlist. Specifically, you can check out this short video where Dana and I share what our post US election emotional experience has been along with what we are doing to nourish ourselves.

Shades of Life Conversations, posted on this YouTube playlist, where Jerry Nagel, Tenneson Woolf and I show up and riff off of what has our attention in the moment. A number of those conversations focus on the power of story, patterns and trends that we are seeing and how we nurture ourselves or others. These are longer conversations, suitable to accompany a coffee or lunch break, doing the dishes or making dinner. We also had a post US election call and you can find it here.

A few of the writers, authors, poets and groups I find inspiring:

My news and social media consumption has dropped off starkly in the last months, which is great. It gives me more time to create, to focus on what is within my control and what can I offer now.

Clarissa Pinkola Estes wrote, “One of the most calming and powerful actions you can do to intervene in a stormy world is to stand up and show your soul. Soul on deck shines like gold in dark times. The light of the soul throws sparks, can send up flares, builds signal fires, causes proper matters to catch fire. To display the lantern of soul in shadowy times like these – to be fierce and to show mercy toward others; both are acts of immense bravery and greatest necessity.”

We Were Made for These Times and We are the Ones We are Waiting For

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It has never been harder and more imperative than ever to accept the challenge offered by Clarissa Pinkola Estes when she wrote, in 2001, “Do not lose heart. We were made for these times.” And, as Gandolph said to Frodo, when Frodo lamented, “I wish the Ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.” “So do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.”

It feels to me like we are in an overwhelming, fast-flowing white water rapids period of reality and history. Honestly, conditions and circumstances I never imagined would be my experience in my 6th decade of life. But here we are. Until recent years, maybe the last decade or two, I naively believed that democracy was a given. That hard fought wins would be the unchallenged status quo in perpetuity. I did not imagine that human rights are something that always need to be fought for. This is the lull of having grown up and come to adulthood in the relatively stable decades of the 70s to the 2000s. What a wakeup call.

How are white rapids survived? How do we find our way? As the Hopi Elders’ Prophecy, We are the Ones We Have Been Waiting For, from 2000, says: “There is a river flowing now very fast. It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid. They will try to hold on to the shore. They will feel they are being torn apart and will suffer greatly. Know the river has its destination. The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off into the middle of the river, keep our eyes open, and our heads above the water.”

To find our footing, we need to find a way to navigate the rapids and then find our way out. To do that we need to allow ourselves to be carried by the current until we find a place of refuge, where we can find our footing. While this is happening, we must avoid entrapment or underwater obstacles where danger can engulf us. In today’s world, entrapment could mean becoming lost in “doom scrolling” on our social media feeds or news apps. And there are so many places and ways we can find refuge – we just need to focus and to choose.

Here are a few suggestions for remembering that “we were made for these times” and “we are the ones we have been waiting for”.

  1. Reduce and limit social media scrolling and news watching. My own time dedicated to this has been significantly reduced compared to before the US election. It is possible to stay aware of what is going on in the world simply by perusing headlines and dedicating limited time to these endeavours, without staying long enough to be overwhelmed or to despair.
  2. Notice what is draining you or uplifting you. Turn your attention to sources of inspiration and focus your time on what uplifts you. Give yourself permission to do this because it is okay to find joy, laughter and connection to sustain yourself.
  3. Become aware of the conversations that drain your energy, evoke despair or anger. I seem to have a deep well of anger that surfaces if I pay too much attention to politics or the wars that are being waged – because I am an empath and because the harm to people wounds my heart and my spirit. When I become aware this is happening, I pull out my boundaries and turn my attention or the conversation elsewhere.
  4. Read the full Hopi Prophecy and Clarissa Pinkola Estes full essay as well as other poets and authors who offer reminders of courage and inspiration.
  5. Focus on what is within your control or influence and be or do those things. Sometimes it can take some effort to get started but once in motion it gets easier whether this is writing, meditating, activity, exercise, advocacy or whatever else feels meaningful or helpful to you.
  6. Deepen spiritual or mindfulness practices. They remind us that there is more to the world than the physicality of it and that minding our energy – what we take in and what we give off – is extraordinarily important and life giving.
  7. Know who your people are and hold them close. This can be family, friends, colleagues, authors, poets or people you follow who remind you of the humanity that is still flourishing out there. In another post, I provide a list of people and groups that provide me with inspiration. I may have lost faith in some humans but I have not lost faith in humanity.
  8. Create. Art. Crafts. Poetry. Other writing. Offerings that are in service to yourself and maybe in service to others. Remember we are not chasing perfection, we are evoking what is true for us in any given moment and sharing that to remind ourselves and each other that there are many ways of expression available to us.
  9. Be a spark of light. Este says, “Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach. Any small, calm thing that one soul can do to help another soul, to assist some portion of this poor suffering world, will help immensely. It is not given to us to know which acts or by whom, will cause the critical mass to tip toward an enduring good. One of the most calming and powerful actions you can do to intervene in a stormy world is to stand up and show your soul. Soul on deck shines like gold in dark times. The light of the soul throws sparks, can send up flares, builds signal fires, causes proper matters to catch fire. To display the lantern of soul in shadowy times like these – to be fierce and to show mercy toward others; both are acts of immense bravery and greatest necessity.

Personally, I am deep in creation with my partner Jerry Nagel and with my dear friend Dana Pearlman (Inner Wisdom Lab). I share more about that in this other post as well as links to some of our work. Jerry and I engage in Shades of Life Conversations with our dear friend Tenneson Woolf. These conversations are timely and nourishing.

Take care of yourself. Pay attention to what nourishes you. Extend this umbrella to the people you care about.  We are the ones we’ve been waiting for and we were made for these times.

Ancestral Lineages and Why Invite Ancestors into the Core of Our Personal and Professional Work

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For those who understand that there is more to life than the physical – that life includes the meta-physical, energetic or spiritual – we know that our lives cannot be separated from the living world within which we are formed, grow, mature and die. This includes a host of living beings, nature spirits, the elements and our human ancestors. 

Just like we stand on the shoulders of those who have recently come before us, there is a long lineage of ancestral support that has carved out the path which we now trod. Their support is available to us, whether we are consciously aware or not. We always have the opportunity and ability to invite the ancestors into our lives and many of us do this through some form of prayer, ritual or other acknowledgement.

Ancestral lineages are strong. Our ancestors overcame many hardships to shape a life of meaning, purpose, spirituality and success. Their resilience came from a deep faith that sustained them. Not all who have died become spiritual ancestors; only those who have lived a full measure of life, cultivated moral values and achieved distinction attain this status. Without our ancestors, none of us would exist. We are the living embodiment of our ancestors’ dreams. We honour them with offerings of prayer or other ritual and through acknowledging their presence on a regular basis.

Ancestors are custodians of our lives. They occupy a position of dignity and awe among descendants and they hold great wisdom and knowledge. They have the power to influence the future. They bring good fortune and protect living relatives and future generations when called in. They teach us that the most meaningful life is one lived in service to and for others.

Just as the ancestors are available to us on a personal level, they are also available and ready to support us in our communities and the work we do. In some ways, not acknowledging them, not calling them in, can seem irresponsible, causing us to operate through ego and without the full awareness of all that is available. Deliberately calling the ancestors into community convenings or group gatherings or other facilitation provides a deep foundation from which to be present, to trust and to do the work. In some gatherings this is done transparently in the group, but it doesn’t have to be with the full group. They can be called in silently, they can be called in by the hosting team and they can be invited prior to the gathering.

We can ask for their guidance and make specific requests. We can call on them to bring wisdom, knowledge and support for the actions we take. Our ancestors offer great spiritual guidance and power. They are a deep wellspring of blessings, healing and resource. As we call them in, we bring a different level of presence and potency into our lives and into our work that includes the groups and communities we serve and convene.

We each have support beyond what we think possible. As we hold so much, may we soften, expand our consciousness and open into all that which can hold us.

A Water Guided Visualization

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Recently, I was out for a walk. Near my house is a path beside a stream and I had the inspiration to record a short guided visualization, incorporating the flow of water. It begins with an invitation to see yourself beside a stream or relaxing in the water – the water gently flowing by. As it does, it cleanses and releases all that does not serve. As that is released, there is room to receive – to be nourished, revitalized, resourced or to welcome gifts into your being. You are then invited to notice what is different, embrace all that has shown up and know you can access it at any time.

Got 5 minutes. Take a listen – the link to the audio is here.

A few people have already listened and this is what they had to say:

“I’m currently healing from an injury and this visualization was just what I needed 💕“

“I received a big hit 🎯. Gifts from the water: a diamond inside a treasure box, a Trident with immense energy, an apple, a cannonball bursting with energy.”

Remember that each person who listens to guided visualizations are offered imagery and symbolism that is specific to you. Here is a link to the one on Energy Renewal. Enjoy. Love hearing the feedback.

Inner Wisdom Activation – Step Boldly into Who You were Born to Be!

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There is a momentous shift occurring and with this shift is an invitation into expansion and expression of your full self. Many people are experiencing relief, a sense of being re-energized and even joy.

Is it possible that we are in a moment of significant sea tide of change taking root? For people who follow astrology or energy guides, all indications point to this time as sparking new, long-term cycles. As with any cycle, it means some things are ready to die and new things are birthed. The death throes can be loud, frightening and possibly even feel a bit dangerous. I feel some of this when I look at current political scenarios in both the US and Canada as I work to intentionally stay facing a future of optimism and hope.

Dana Pearlman and I are creating a space for a community of wisdom seekers: The Inner Wisdom Lab. We have created a Facebook Group as a starting place for this community and you can go there to join us. We are also offering a 4-week Inner Wisdom Activation Program beginning with the first 2 hour session on September 26 at 1:00 pm EST. Registration is $125 US for all 4 although the first session is free.

This program is for those of us wanting to step more completely into the gifts and talents we know we have yet have not yet fully accessed. The type of gifts and talents that arise from inner wisdom and knowing that we may have ignored, hidden or believed we didn’t have. This is an invitation to rise, both individually and collectively, to meet the moment, renewed, resourced and ready.

Inner Wisdom Activation Information

You find out more at the Inner Wisdom webpage where you can also find a registration link. During the 4 weeks we will cover:

  1. Inner Wisdom Activation: connecting to hidden or forgotten gifts and talents.
  2. Intuitive Triads Community Call: honing intuition to discern and act on synchronicities.
  3. Identifying and Releasing Limiting Beliefs: getting out of your own way – releasing fear, anxiety, shame and doubt to expand access to your inner wisdom.
  4. Sacred Inner Wisdom Creations: what sacred creation do you want to give life to now?

There will be other guided visualizations provided in advance of each week to support you in the journey and you will be invited into reflection exercises to see what arises for you from week to week and note any discoveries that emerge.

An Inner Wisdom Lab Video Series

Dana and I are having a lot of fun in creating this offering. We have been recording some videos to describe what it is, why we have felt called to do this, what’s involved, what guided visualizations are and we share some stories from our own experiences to give people a sense of who we are as well as a sense of what might be experienced. You can find the Inner Wisdom Play List here. Individual videos created so far are listed below.

  1. Inner Wisdom Activation Introduction.
  2. Guided Visualizations: What they are and how they work.
  3. Kathy’s Drumming Circle Story – an early experience.
  4. Dana’s Story of Reiki and Healing.
  5. Dana’s Story – the call to paint.
  6. Kathy’s Story – The call to Gold Lake (and how it connects to the Drumming Circle story from a decade previous).

Community helps us grow. Together we amplify our experiences and our access to energy and intuition. It may be serious and profound work. It’s also fun and invites us to laugh with each other. Come join us and grow your own sense of community and connection.

Enchantments and Enchanted Spaces

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When I moved into my home in 2010, I had always felt like I had been called to it – or it had called to me. The house I had been living in prior to divorce sold within 24 hours of listing it, with a month to close. This may be one of the most powerful enchantments I have ever done, without actually knowing what I was doing. I wove a spell of letting go and welcome around that house daily for months before the house was listed.

I was wandering through my now neighbourhood the day my old house was being viewed and saw an open house sign. I accepted that invitation and knew immediately upon entering that this was my house. Although my agent took me to see other houses, I didn’t need to see any others. The previous owner was willing to move sooner than he had anticipated – within three weeks – because it was a sale with no conditions.

Lots of Transformation over the Years

Fourteen years later, I still feel the same. There has been a lot of transformation in the house and on the property. It started with converting most of a large storage room into my office as soon as I moved in. That idea came about as I stood, looking out that basement window, saying to myself, in a perfect world, this room would be my office. So mote it be.

Property Transformation

Property transformation began one summer when Jerry was visiting. He took the gardening tools to the trees in what had become an overgrown backyard wilderness of sorts. I learned a lot about being ruthless in taking down tree limbs, line of sight, pausing to see how things looked, before going too far. Trimming the undergrowth from a front hedge became a summer project another year. Other yard work was sparked because my son and daughter-in-law love digging in the dirt and cutting up wood. Projects started while they visited became my mission.

Painting Odyssey

Then there was the painting odyssey of 2020 – thank you Covid. Every room in the house was rearranged, purging did transpire, and fresh colour adorned every wall and piece of trim in the house by early fall.

2022 saw new decks – one that Jerry and I built on our own, nestled a bit higher up than the main deck and into the trees, making it feel like a completely different space and energy – almost like it was in the woods rather than attached to the main deck. A contractor replaced that one.

This spring (2024) saw the takedown of a huge, three-trunk elm tree from my front yard after a large branch came crashing down in big winds, Easter weekend. It was leaning over my house and beginning the slow rot from the inside, so it needed to come down. It has since been transformed into firewood. And, I’m working on removing the oil tank and furnace, to be replaced by heat pumps, this fall.

Enchanted Playhouse and Space

I have often thought about building a playhouse for my grandchildren in a portion of my backyard. That idea was put on hold for a variety of reasons. One recent weekend, as I looked out a stairwell window, I saw that neighbours across the street had put out a child’s hard plastic playhouse for anyone to pick up.

Magically, a playhouse is now in my backyard. It is not the wooden structure I thought I would build – maybe that will come later – but the magical sense of this little house in my backyard, at the end of a path (that once led to something else) truly lends itself to a feeling of enchantment. My grandchildren love it. Looking out from the deck or the living room window, the whole space now looks like an enchanted opening in the wyrd wood where fairies, wood elves and nymphs, and the spirits of the land will now come to gather and spread their magic in the same way I was drawn to my home the very first time I saw it.